A view of millennial dating culture - from a millennial's
When we were younger romantic relationships seemed so much
simpler. If you liked someone, you expressed it and if they felt the same way,
you started a relationship.
Today’s relationships are much more complicated and
Trust me, I know.
We take a look at a few reasons why millennials
relationships don’t work out.
1. Apologies are out
With most things happening over texts, emotions are hardly
For instance, if your significant other is angry/upset with
you, texting is normally used to stonewall and/or attack you.
Also, instead of communicating in person and expressing
ourselves, we escape reality and send hurtful messages to each other which is
an unhealthy way of solving the problem. In fact, it rarely solves anything.
2. Romantic notions
are seen as forward
Most millennials are so afraid of appearing too forward or
too clingy that they avoid all notions of romance.
Gone are the days where first dates was about a guy showing
up at your door with flowers. Nowadays even calling it a date is seen as too
formal and too old-fashioned. You're lucky if you end up having coffee at
Hand holding and just kissing are a rarity. For some reason
this generation seems to have associated romance with clinginess.
Also read: This is why you need to stop texting him
3. The expectation of
There’s nothing wrong with instant communication, especially
if it’s in the beginning stages of a relationship.
However, it can eventually lead to a lack of discussion and
It can also lead to paranoia, for instance if you are used
to talking to your partner all the time and then they suddenly don’t text you
for hours, then they are automatically up to no good and that causes fights and
4. The communication
I’m pretty sure a lot of millennials (especially ladies)
will agree with me on this one; the game of “who’s going to text first”
determines who holds control in the relationship.
Most ladies prefer the guy to initiate conversations because
they don’t want to be seen as desperate and clingy. (You will have noticed by
now that NOTHING is worse than being clingy.)
5. We want a
relationship but not commitment
We like the idea of having a partner, but we don’t want the
responsibilities that come with it.
More and more millennials are going for a “dating partner”.
This is someone with whom you do most of what you would with your significant
other but without defining the relationship. People get into these for
Not only is it challenging for the older generation to
understand the millennial dating culture, but it is difficult for millennials
themselves to understand it.
Perhaps it's time we stopped hiding behind our smartphones
and started living life.For
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