Abuja - Sometimes as women and we grow used to a relationships, we forget to appreciate. And when you stop noticing the small things, it leads to that person completely stopping/ forgetting to do them. Then you later realize it and wonder what happened. Appreciation should never be a one sided thing but for both parties to recognise it in their relationship and let the other person know they noticed the effort and you like it.
Pleasure can be found in the smaller things as well.
Making an effort to make you a part of their lives
It is not like you have to force it out of them in conversation or you have never even met one of their people like family or friends. They invite you and they tell you what happened during their day or at work. You don’t have to worry where the relationship is going because you are blacked out from everything else that goes on with him. You are basically in the loop.
You know if you are exclusive or not. You will know if you are headed somewhere long-term or not. If it is no longer working for him, he will be that person to tell you and not waste your time. You know you are in a relationship because he let you know that he is not seeing other people unlike some people who would have kept you guessing.
He does actually help around the house
A guy that helps you with chores- perfect gem. You do not understand the number of men that equate having a girlfriend with having a maid. Especially a newly married man, if he is still helping you because he knows the both of you do work, appreciate that and don’t be the type that starts outlining what you think he needs to do more of. That is when he will stop bothering.
He makes the effort to still look good when you go out together
The man who complaints on how his wife/ girlfriend has let herself go but when you look at him you wonder. Men like thinking about how women should still look 20 when they are 40 but he is not trying to ditch his beer belly- the standards…..
He makes time to plan something just for the two of you
Dates go out of the window for most married couples because everyone apparently does not have time. On the other hand, the women do miss it, I do not know about the men because most end up in the pubs with their mates. If your man makes an effort to ask you out on dates and even goes a mile ahead to make a plan and not ask what you want to do- that is a surely a keeper.