Abuja - Emotional immaturity. I was unable to put a face to it or acknowledge it
as a chronic disorder until experience wielded its hand and gave me a
crash course on the subject.
I was recently involved with a guy
who appeared to have his act together. He gave me a natural high, which
lasted all of two weeks before he quickly turned into a drug of potent
The 30-year-old man I was attracted to was soon
replaced by an emotionally underdeveloped boy. The relationship
disintegrated soon afterwards as I didn’t have the strength to forge a
relationship with a juvenile poser.
Below is a “list” of traits
I’ve compiled to help you identify an emotionally underdeveloped man. I
chose to overlook these tell-tale signs and found myself being
emotionally involved with someone who was incapable of reciprocating my
feelings. I hope that you’ll avoid suffering the same fate.
1. Always the Victim
ex got a kick from playing the victim and he blamed everybody else for
his distress. This made him incredibly narcissistic. It was always
someone else’s fault. It was his father’s fault he had two kids out of
wedlock with two different women (because he abandoned him at a young
It was the two women’s fault his relationship with them
failed to end amicably. He was incapable of taking any responsibility
for his actions. He was hypersensitive to any ill-treatment directed
towards him but chose to remain oblivious to his treatment of others.
2. Irrational Behaviour
him, the most effective way to express himself was by having volatile
outbursts before withdrawing from the relationship as a form of
punishment. He was defensive and communicating with him rationally,
proved to be a frustrating endeavour (although he had no reservations
about attacking my character at whim).
Woe unto me if I dared make it seem like he was
the one with the problem. He’d cut off all means of communication with
me; rejecting my calls, blocking me on Whatsapp and unfollowing me on
Twitter. As far as he was concerned, he was entitled to that sort of
3. Mr Co-Dependent
manipulative, emotionally abusive and had a way of making me feel guilty
that he loved me. According to him, I was the problem that needed
fixing; the “girl interrupted”, and his only crime was his longing to
rescue me from myself.
He wanted me to give him that false sense
of purpose. He wanted me to make him feel like he was in control in
order for him to delay the process of confronting his own issues.
wanted my existence to be more miserable in comparison and I refused to
give him the satisfaction. I wouldn’t enable his “superman” complex and
this threatened the very foundation of his masculinity.
liked drama, and if there was no cause for drama, he’d create it. I
couldn’t wait for him to grow up. He needs to fix what’s wrong with him
on his own.
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