Abuja - Confidence is much like that perfect accessory that pulls an outfit together. Without it, it doesn’t seem quite right, but with it…it’s gobsmackingly "wow!"
Just as many women feel daunted by the process of finding and selecting that ‘perfect accessory,' obtaining true self-confidence can also feel illusive and hard to obtain.
It always amazes me how two women can be a similar age, body shape and size, but one will beautifully wear styles that the other wouldn’t dare to, because she has the confidence to do so.
So does that mean that some women have it and others don’t? I don’t think so. I think that confidence first and foremost is a choice.
Yes, some personality types do find it easier than others, but even for those who have a level of 'built-in' confidence, they still need to decide to grow and nurture it or it will get squashed and destroyed.
Let’s be honest, there is so much in our modern world that tells us we are not good enough, pretty enough, rich enough, smart enough... the list is endless. That's why it's so important to consciously choose to nurture and build self-confidence.
Having had the privilege of working with thousands of women to help them look and feel fabulous about themselves, I’d like to share a few pointers to inspire a more confident you:
- Make the decision: As women get older, they often say that they become more grounded and accepting of themselves - something that eluded them when they were young. For these women, confidence is a by-product of this process. But, why wait till then? Why not make that decision today? Life is too short not to.
- What you focus on grows: If you constantly focus on all the things you think are wrong with your body, hair, skin… then how do you think you will achieve greater self-confidence? Make a list of at least three things that you LIKE about your look and focus on those. It may feel really weird at first, but I tell you, persistence pays off.
- Fake it till you make it: Growing confidence is a process and I don’t think it ever stops. If you are having a bad day, put on something colourful and fake it till you make it.
You may be surprised to see how well this works. To practice confidence, play one of my favourite games:
Go into a boutique where you can’t afford to buy anything, but act like you can. As you get really good at it, just watch how the sales people gravitate toward you. It’s so much fun!
For more details, visit the Tracy Gold website.
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