We discuss feminism, inequality and sexism.
I was still a pre-teen when I became aware of the battle of
the sexes. I was a pre-teen when I saw a world where men were deemed as worthier
than women, and where men were fine subjugating women.
Fast forward to my early twenties, and I am realising that
although there is a conflict between men and women, we as women have bought
into the lie.
We sometimes think we are less than men and find ourselves
unconsciously seeing ourselves as a problem that needs fixing.
For example, I constantly hear women blaming the “other
woman”, asking how the other woman could do such when their partner has cheated
on them, instead of holding the man accountable.
I hear women talking about men cheating as if it’s something
that is the norm and something that should be expected and accepted. I hear
women being told by other women that they need to do everything in power to
“keep their man”.
I hear about gatherings and events that have been arranged
by women, for women, so that women can learn to be the woman a man wants. I
never hear about men arranging or attending forums so that they can learn and
understand women and stop antagonising us.
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I constantly see articles telling women how to improve
themselves so that they can “land the guy”.
I have heard a woman being told by another woman that she
should be powerful but not too powerful as she will scare off men.
I hear women telling other women to dress a certain way in
order to attract the right type of man.
These are but a few examples of the oppressive words that
women have said and continue to say to other women, but never to men. Most of
us are aware of the double standards held in society but why is it the women
who are perpetuating them?
Perhaps after centuries of having these beliefs enforced on
us it is now ingrained? Have we become our own enemy?
You may be thinking, I’m talking nonsense, but can you honestly say that you have never said or
at least thought things like: “What is wrong with me?”, when you looked at
yourself in relation to the opposite sex.
Or can you say that you have never said or at least thought
“How could she stay with him?” after a man treated a woman badly?
Most women have, and it is not okay that we have allowed
ourselves to think like this.
The realisation that we as women are consciously and
subconsciously looking down on ourselves is saddening.
It is sad to see how we as women continually appease men at
our own expense. It is sad to see women holding themselves to high standards
but allowing men to have no standards.
It is sad that we as women are at war with ourselves. And
this is not the way it’s supposed to be. We were not born a problem. We never
became a problem and we shouldn’t see ourselves as a problem. For
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