Nairobi - You should not listen to all my advice.
Sometimes good advice is just a gentle way
of saying this is what I want to do but you can choose to do it and see if it
works. When it comes to men you can never actually win. There is just always
Like for example this past weekend; I think
some man might have told me I am being desperate. I literally talked to the man
only when he texted me or called me and then he was like,’ You have to give me
an opportunity to miss you.’ So in my head I asked myself whether I was not
meant to pick the calls, I never call the guy because he works odd hours and is
usually in the middle of something. I left all our communication up to him.
In my head I just asked myself whether I
should have avoided replying back then be coined as rude and playing hard to
get. I was not understanding to be honest. Because I am always in the mood, I just
replied, ‘Please don’t text me so that I can have nothing to reply to.’
And they say women are from some other
planet, in my opinion, men always take the cake.
My advice; when it comes to dating, and
relationships, do it at your own pace and choose what you are ready for. At
times men can be o rude and I am not sure whether it is knowingly or
unknowingly when they make some statements.
Don’t waste your time; if you want
something more with this guy, know your place. A man will tell you, ‘but I
never said we were exclusive’, while you were there relying on signals.
Signals are the worst because when it comes
to dating, a man will have sex on the fifth month of dating and tell you, he is
not going anywhere with it. This one is very dangerous because he knew buy that
time, you were playing the 90-day rule and he decided to play along just saw he
can have the last laugh.
If a man is constantly checking on you, do
not be flattered. He might have been checking on two who had prompted him, then
remembered you and said, ‘Oh, let me call her before I forget.’ He finishes
call with you, with you feeling butterflies while he proceeds to his date.
Know your place with a man, if it is a
group effort, don’t shy aware from that knowledge because at least you now have
your eyes open. Don’t be clueless and be surprised with a wedding invitation or
the pregnancy debacles.
Girl, don’t even get me started on those
that try to judge your girlfriend skills before making the right type of effort
on their end. If he is not trying you as he should from the get go don’t even
try it. You will be wasting yourself. He has to do what a man needs to do
before you step up- period!