Abuja - How to get a man to forget about his ex and just be with you.
I go by the personal belief that if a man does not want you now, no matter what you do, in the long run, you will end up getting hurt.
Don’t do any wife material things or girlfriend stuff. Don’t show how you will change his life by being the ‘it’ girl. You will end up being the ‘bandage’ girl. If it was a bad break up, you help him heal and get over it, then he is onto the next fresh thing that will not remind him of his misery. If it was just the end, then you just become the rebound.
What I will advise you on though is,
Give him his space
Let the guy come seek you out when he is free if you are interested. Don’t be around to be the shoulder to cry on. You can’t be the person who was there after the break up. You will be associated with the ex- something he wants to forget; maybe! Let him also have that time to figure out if it is you he wants. Don’t be suffocating by ‘trying to be there for him’. Let him get his closure through that. Hanging out is not bad but don’t rush the process.
Don’t try to rush into anything with a guy that has just left a relationship
If it is not him trying to compare you and her, it is the merits of this relationship to that former one. You do not want that. This is the guy you should be scared to be in anything with but if he is worth it, you take it slow. Don’t rush it.
Allow the man to enjoy his freedom
Maybe it will back fire by him finding someone else and forgetting about you. By the way, worst case scenario; maybe that could happen! But after any break up for anything after that to be healthy; someone just needs to be alone and enjoy their alone time. If they need a band aid, it is because they don’t want to confront anything.