Abuja - I have been single for too long... Way too long.. This is why I say so.
You actually do forget how to loosen up and be in the moment
I am saying this from experience, you do forget how to date and just be there for the fun. Opening yourself up for something new, you are ten steps ahead while they are just on 1. Because you have too many questions and you do not want to be one of those who end up wasting their time on what was never worth it. So you keep hitting them with it and they get this startled look like, ‘slow down… or should I back off from this.’ That is when it hits you it is not them but you because they are right, you are moving too fast.
You demand a lot too early
You are not used to seeing anyone. So this new thing comes along and you are already wondering if you are exclusive. You just had two dates. Now you get confused if they are seeing other people and whether you should as well.
The game changed while you were away
The hook up culture happened and everyone likes it even though you don’t so you have to put up with it. If nothing goes down after the first date, you are not worth it. You have to initiate some things and roles have changed. You are just lost basically.
What should I do on the first date?
What do they expect? What is a first date about? I don’t want to come off as too desperate; then again, is it okay if I just? So many questions and the worst part is, you will get there and maybe never see or hear from that person again. That is just how it is done.