Abuja - First, it happens.
Long term relationships are the hardest to break especially when one party is planning a happily ever after but you are done.
First: You don’t keep keeping quiet
If you know that you are going to end this, end it now. Don’t continue wasting their time. Don’t keep being mum for another year while someone is running around planning an engagement, talking about the future and how they look forward to it. You would rather they used that year to get over you. Especially if it is a woman who is between 25-29, let her go if you are not seeing her be your wife. Don’t wait for her to get to 30 then start telling her how you are not in love.
Don’t just disappear
It is a strategy used by men mostly. If your relationship is more than a year old, or someone you have been dating for close to 2-4 years; you just don’t disappear with no explanation. It is not only rude but it creates scars. They will start wondering what is wrong with them and they become hateful. A break up becoming uglier is better than no explanations at all. Only to see you resurface with someone else.
Cheating is not a good idea
One at times assumes that they can fix a cheating incident and move forward. But some people cheat just so they can break up with you. You will say you have forgiven them but they will be adamant about not wanting to hurt you again so they would rather just walk away as they are no longer that ‘good’ person for you. It is just a line.
Something could have been meaningful deserves respect, don’t let this person walk away thinking they have issues. Let them be able to move on. Cheating only makes people think they were not good enough. Baggage they take to the next relationship.
Worst case scenario is when you actually do it and they are still there, still planning because they are not about to be one of those that have wasted 7 years with someone only to be told somebody is out of love.