Nairobi - Many a married woman can identify with the scenario of not feeling in the mood yet the hubby is on fire like evangelist Reinhard Bonke.
Maybe there is an unresolved conflict or the workload at the job or even the stress of a baby or new boss. The lady just wants to rest and sex is not even the last thing on her mind. This is the time to take a warm shower and relax and allow your hubby have his sex.
Denying him for long periods of time will result is more harm than good for the relationship and even your mental and emotional well being. Research shows that most problems in marriages originate with poor intimacy and a dead sex life. Sex was also created by God to be a glue for the marriage and heal any hurt that is pulling the couple away. It is like being sick and refusing to take medicine until you are well.
That is what many ladies do and create more unnecessary problems. Selfishness in this area leads to the man looking for alternative ways to ease the sexual urge. Ironically it is the wife that is the first to complain when the man outsources this service.
Wives should not discard this powerful weapon of bonding and healing that God has given then. Infact no woman has died of accepting to have sex with the husband when she is not in the mood. Your body does not belong to you only but your husband or wife as well, as the holy books say.
There is no valid reason to deny each other sex for prolonged periods in the name of revenge and settling scores. Deal with any issue hindering intimacy and come together quickly before the devil tempts you and destroys your marriage. Denying your husband sex often passes a message to him that you are refusing him and don't honour or love him.
Soon he begins to act negatively towards you.