“What’s your marital status?”
“Plan on having kids soon?”
“What are your child-care arrangements?”
Career experts agree that questions asked during a job interview are meant to determine whether one is a good fit for the organisation and a specific job. Yet, women are still experiencing sexist questioning during interviews, more often pertaining to their personal lives, rather than their actual qualifications.
Is there an outright bias here? Do employers simply favour hiring men over women because they are presumed to be less ‘complicated’?
A recent Huffington Post report stated that women were often either seen as ‘too bossy’ or ‘too reticent.’ This, of course, is nothing new.
Women regularly deal with inappropriate sexual advances, and mothers in particular appear to be at the receiving end of most bias handed out by employers. Which is why women are questioned in interviews about their priorities. Will she be able to cope with all her work as she seems very dedicated to her children? And when the opposite is true and she is coping she is often criticised for being too dedicated to her job. "You work all the time, shouldn't you spend more time with your children?"
The Huffington Post, recently shared feedback from their female readers, sharing questions they’ve been subjected to in job interviews:
• "I was asked during fundraising meetings ‘How do we know you're not going to run off and have a baby?'"
• "Once I was asked about my religion and my views on abortion. On another occasion I was asked about how I would take care of my child while working."
The Independent UK also revealed similar sexist questions:
• “Can you wear more make up next time?”
• “Can you flirt with the customers to make them stay longer?”
• ‘What does your husband make of your career plans?’
So, how are you supposed to respond to such intrusive questions?
Redirect the question
Next time an employer asks you if you have kids, redirect the question into what he/she is really asking, for example: “Perhaps you’re asking if I’m focused on my work and can handle late hours? I assure you, I can.”
Ask your interviewer why the question is relevant
Although the question may seem absurd, there could be a genuine reason behind it. So let’s make sure of this first.
You’re allowed to push back
Career coach at CareerWorx, Lisa LaRue, agrees that women shouldn’t answer sexist questions such as “Do you plan on having children?” or “Are you in a relationship?’
Managing director of Career Library TV Stephan Conway’s advice is perhaps the most epic: Ask whether the questions are ‘standard procedure’ because working for a company that promotes and values equality is important to you.
It will not limit your ability to do a job well done
To questions that seem unrelated such as, “What does your partner do for a living?” or questions about your stance on religion or abortion (unless it’s a job at a religious institute or planned parenthood clinic), calmly state that you don’t think this limits your ability to do your job.”
Above all, keep it cool and keep it calm.