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Sexless marriage; how does that work?

26 August 2016, 10:32Shakila Alivitsa

Abuja - No, realistically is what I mean. Not the lies you would tell someone else or you write about to make sense to society and not be frowned upon.

I usually think that people have a plan B in the works. Unless you two have hit that age, you know 50+; that makes sense. But a young couple that is healthy; has had children- what happens to get to a point where you two just have no sex. It starts like a joke 1month, then 2months then 6 months and then a year. Maybe one partner tries to initiate and keeps being put off by one partner. They will eventually stop- no one can keep putting up with rejection that has never even once become a yes on an odd day. You eventually stop.

Then the other partner, since they are unbothered; does not notice until one day on year 2, you are just like, ‘when was the last time we had sex?’ Not because you now want to but because it has become like a thing you compartmentalize. Which is why I am saying that someone always has a plan B as soon as there plan A is not working.

Some of the problems you experience in your marriage are things that you cause yourself. I am, not saying that you are the cause of cheating but what if you actually are. Really think about it.

You deny your partner then when you find out they have been up to some shady business, you flip out and say they are not being faithful But how can someone be faithful to something that is not there?

They tried to bring the subject up, you shut it down. They tried to make it happen with you, you said you were not interested. So what was meant to be there next option? Imagine a 30 something year old or even 40 year old woman or man stuck in a marriage like that.

If it is something that you both agreed on, then that is alright. But if it is something never discussed and you agreed on by yourself don’t be too fast to point a finger. You need to sit yourself down.

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