A near-indignant but well meaning Nigerian girl recently posted on her wall calling on 'Naija' girls looking for ideal men: 'Stop posting your photos all over the place. It's not how many Likes you get that makes you beautiful.' How much appreciation you give to the friends and family in your network is what matters, she argued. And that, to my mind, is a wonderful universal message for all humankind.
To start with, although Facebook is designed to appeal to the self-exhibitionism in most individual users, a few enlightened and conscious workers are re-using it to teach, share and encourage thousands across the world on universal truths and awareness of life and community. On the most Facebook has encouraged and availed itself for use by the most self-engrossed individuals who can't seem to get over themselves and their need for attention.
Here are 5 subtle signs drawn from your activities on Facebook that reveal the egotism of the perrennial attention seeker in you, your friends and your cohorts who may still be stuck in the New Age matrix that you can only love your neighbour after you have exhausted your energy in loving yourself first and foremost in everything you do. You can use each of these as a meter for measuring where you stand either in the league of attention-seeking, service-to-self eccentrics of our universe or the quiet and humble masters and teachers who are always about their roles in service to you and several thousands of others in rather gentle ways.
5 Facebook activities and signs that show you to be very selfish, and what you can do about it
(a) is your alternative and remedial action plan.
1. It's your Wall, anyway, so your photos are all over your posts, adorned with very personal pictures of your beloved wife, wonderful hubby, handsome sons, or beautiful daughters, and celebrating this or that achievement and birthday. While a handful of like-minded friends and cousins may occasionally come into the gallery mix, it's generally all about you, where you've been, what you're at, what you are doing, how you are feeling, and what happened to you, you and you!
1 (a) Take it easy. Community is not all about you and your motley band of admirers and loyalists who have nothing to offer in the end, save those soul killing doses of egotism. Take some interest in new friends and other people across diverse cultures. They might be friends you have yet to meet in person. Share their photos, and absorb yourself in getting to know their interesting values and activities. That is one of the surest ways you can learn and grow on Facebook and other communtiy networks, including your whole social media life for that matter! 2. If you are not racist or tribalist, you are clannish and bigoted at best. You tend to click 'Like' only for your 'clan' who comment on your pics and posts, especially when they flatter you and tell you how awesome you look, how grand your posts, even when you and your self-involved ideas may be far from amazing and anything but inspiring...
2 (a) Pause a little and take the time out to read newsfeeds and posts by others. 'Like' their posts, and share those ideas which resonate universally. It shouldn't matter where on the planet they come from. Be curious. The universe is constantly seeking to uplift you through new things, through other people and their often way-out activities.
3. Similiar to number 2, you acknowledge the presence and share only the posts of that crony or member of the clique who exhibits same self-love and gossipy traits with you. The rest of your friend and community list do not matter. In fact you ignore all other news in your feed, no matter how illuminating, which do not celebrate you, share your ideas or proclaim how prolific you are...
3 (a). Well, you are probably brain dead by now but don't know it yet. As in the above 2 (a) alternative, you need to get out of your head and appreciate the differences that come with other varieties of ideas and thought. Getting to know these differences and sharing their illuminating points, too, is a secret of longevity --and the rehabilitation of your dying brain cells!
4. Nature: trees, shrubs, flowers, art work, animals, pets and the fur family do not adorn your Photo uploads. It's only the same group of cronies and their plastic smiles in and around your kitchen, your exotic car, your ultramodern duplex, your prestigious chilling-out at McDonald's or Hilton, your conferences and seminars in Hawaii and Ohio, which all litter the social landscape of your activities...
4 (a). Oh what boring fool's paradise! If only you knew the healthsome and uplifting benefits that come from plant and animal energy, you could achieve accelerated rate of evolutionary growth. Show your love and respect for all of God's harmless creations. In the beginning of creation humans lived in harmony with the varieties of animal and plant life on this Eden planet until the coming of the dark lords who created strife and disruption of the balance. Observe, learn and share your affinity for the flora and fauna of our hallowed planet. If you are science-and-tech geek, know that art and nature will restore the much needed, much lacking balance and wisdom within your Self.
5. Your religion, which is just the dark shadow of your self, dominates your attitude and outlook on every Wall post. If you are not always commenting 'InshaAllah,' 'Amen' or 'Praise Jesus' in affirmation of the supremacy of your beliefs, you are always sharing those hate- and fear-based posts that encourage you to see how you are different and possibly better than those others who don't share the same notions with you about God or Creator of the universe...
5 (a). Well, good luck being a moron! But at the end of your days it will not matter how many tithes you paid to your greedy pastor, or how many differing opinions and humans you have slaughtered on behalf of your God. On the contrary, you should never miss out on the fundamental principle of existence, which is simply being your brother's keeper. This means giving attention and loving acknowledgement to as many things and as many others, outside of your self and family, that life brings your way each time. If you are doing this, then you are well on your path of ascending glory in maturity and fulfilment of soul destiny.
Finally the bottom line, as the good friend on Facebook has noted, is not how many people 'Liked' you while you rocked, or how popular or well prized your activities are. The bottom line is how severally you 'Liked' and 're-Acted' toward people and events when the feeds came your way. If it rocks their boat, then rock their boat by all means. And a lot of learning, soul growth and advancement will emerge after the exchange and the calm. This is wishing you more fun with your social media activities and hope you aspire to be and to do better than you are doing NOW!
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