Regardless of whether we live in the US, India or anywhere else, family is the building block of any society, and our greatest fulfillment lies there. Of course, one needs to give due importance to work. But if any society works diligently in every other area but neglects the family, it would be the same as straightening deck chairs on the Titanic. We all seek happiness but what most of us discover is that happiness is a home-made product. If you have strong and effective relationship with family members - whether living together or apart - the resultant good vibes and mental solace tend to overflow into all other aspects of life. When your family is heading in the right direction, you are better able to perform and focus at work.
On the other hand, if things aren't going well at home, it is difficult to be deeply happy anywhere else. Thus, it is supremely important that at home, with your family, you concentrate on creating a beautiful family culture. Marriage is more than a contractual relationship - it is a promise from each individual to stay true to their love and commitment. While I can't tell you how to choose the right mate, I can advise you to determine what your values and principles are - and who might be a complimentary companion. Write a personal mission statement, outlining what is important to you, how you envision marriage and what family means to you. When the time is right, share this with your companion and encourage him/her to do the same. Happy marriages don't just happen - they are created with body, mind, heart and spirit.
No one can afford to get lazy in their relationship with their spouse. It must be nurtured and tended to. And when it gets off the track, as all relationships tend to, from time to-time, we must correct our course and come back on track. You will find that going back to your own mission statement can act as the guiding force that brings you back - because you will live according to what matters most to you. One of the best ways of keeping a marriage and family effective and healthy is by living the "Seven Habits". These embody universal, timeless principles - they belong to you, to me and all the people in the world. They are not my creation. You already know these principles because you know them to be true and already exercise them to varying degrees. We have simply put a framework around principles and organized a systematic way of living them. Committing to these principles may help you strengthen your marriage and family ties. Here is a quick overview:
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