Most people see marriage as the final aspect of life's achievement in the society today, but fail to understand that it is only the beginning of man's life in reality.
In fact they misconstrue everything because it is in marriage that your true self begins to manifests and every other flaws that exists inside you as a human knowingly and unknowingly to you will becomes so visible to see.
It is then that your partner begins to know the real you, it is this time that those qualities that you posses as a human being will negatively or positively, directly or indirectly become an active aspect of your self and lead to either the betterment or the detriment of your marriage.
It is this time that many spouse finds it hard to live with their partner, some learn to love their partner even more; while some prepare a divorce. It is this time that your ability to persevere, tolerate and stand firm in times of troubles are known. It is then, that your talents and dexterities are put to use, because it is then that they are mostly needed. You strive so hard than usual to stabilize the home at all cost providing comfort and ensuring a happy family; some even borrow in the course of this.
When in marriage there are some things that you must not do contrary to when you were single, because being married you are no longer an entity but a duo, thereby making every affair a concern for both of you. I becomes us, responsibility becomes responsibilities, especially when kids begins to fall in, mouths to feed becomes many and so does desires. You will see yourself going extra miles and bending to the other person's will so as to be able to meet up. It takes a mature mind with wisdom and understanding plus the grace of God to perfectly deliver.
One of the most important quality that one needs to posses to ensure a pleasant life in marriage is integrity, it is very vital to the health and longevity of every marriage and every couple needs to have it. Due to lack of integrity many marriages in our society in recent times suffers breakup.
Life in marriage is not the same as life outside marriage, to ensure a long and lasting marriage life, there are several sacrifices that needs to be made and several types of lifestyle that should be curtailed, like extravagant lifestyle must be controlled, friends should be minimal, responsibilities should be shared, efforts should always be appreciated, individual values and goals should be a concern of both party.
Couple must ensure to spare time for their spouse and as well give listening ears to each other's problem and don't forget to always be faithful to one another. Life after marriage is the most important aspect of our living because it is then that a new generation is formed, that is when maturity counts so we must make sure that we discipline ourselves towards that aspect, divorce cases are so rampant these days but i believe, if we find time to counsel ourselves in the right manner and define a unique lifestyle that is responsible, then make ourselves prepared and careful before chosen a partner for marriage life would be better, and we wont have to make silly mistakes that we will have to live with for the rest of our lives.
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