This has been the most common happening in the country now, the culture of the whites has gone so deep in africa mostly in our dear country nigeria that we want to copy and do most literally everything we see them doing.
We know that in early days the average people that can not afford training their children in school, tends to arrange or push them into early marriage. Where they could tell their child, “we know that you don't love him, but he does loves you, so, you don't have to worry about that because in due time you will get to love him maybe after your first or second child with him.
They equally do this in the name of securing their children's future. This was the story of our fathers and mothers back then. But in 70s, 80s, people get to know each other, fall in love before they get married.
Now, look at it this way, then that they force or push them into marriage, “their marriage gets to last” that's during our parents time. Now in 80s, they tends to fall in love before marriage, girls will be at least 29, 30 and above probably because that was when they finished higher institution and have started working as a matter of fact, before they go into marriage.
Their marriage get to last because they are matured enough to know what life is all about and make good decisions. Things have turn the other way round now, because a child of just 14 years will be allowed to enter into the university and at the age of 18 or 19 years she or he is out.
Guess what's the next agenda? “Is marriage”. Maybe they want to do and start enjoying sex, making babies or feel the value of been called madam or oga. In Nigeria today, many of the young youths that are not up to making that decisions because is not yet the right time, have indulged in and are now married men or married youths or married boys, I can't even figure out what to call this anymore. You may ask! Where are we rushing to? You rush into marriage and you rush out.
Now, we have more broken homes than before, men and women who cheat on their partners because they now realise their union is or was a mistake.
Simply because I dated a girl or a boy doesn't mean he or she can be able to fit in, in my life as a husband or wife. How can we get the young youths of our time to reason well, plan their future well before they make that decision of saying “I do.” Because you are a graduate at the age of 24 years for boys, doesn't make you a man to say! I want to get married. Or a girl of 19 years, makes you a woman to say "I want to get married."
Oh before I will pass my menopause, so let me rush it. Marriage is suppose to be sacred, not a child's play or a thing of let me go and see and come back, no way. Parents that want to have grand children should please think properly what they are leading their children into. Just because you are rich doesn't give you the will to say your child should marry at the age of 20 years.
Let's think twice before we make this decision.
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