The extreme reverence we give to reproductive organs in our society is a strong obstacle to sex education. This hypocrisy has not in any way reduce nor prevent sexual abuse, early sexual debut, teenage pregnancy, unwanted/unintended pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections in our society. Every human being possess some reproductive organs.
There are ways the society can moderate risky behaviours that are sex related. The home is the primary place of contact of every child. Apart from food and shelter, sex education is part of parental responsibilities. No matter the protective measures we put in place, when there is no sex education, our duties as parents have a gully vacuum. Infact a child that lacks sex education is vulnerable to vices whether male or female.
Perhaps, there should be reassessment of indigenous languages where most appropriate words can be adopted for reproductive organs. When we hear the indigenous words for some infections and diseases like HIV/AIDS, yellow fever, diabetes, leprosy, measles, malaria, tuberculosis and the likes. Mere hearing the names we call them alone is enough for infected persons to give up before any medical intervention. These names depicts hopelessness and 'journey of no return'.
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In schools, are there other names for sex organs like vulva, penis, clitoris, scrotum, testes, hymen and the likes? Can a biology teacher replace these words and expect the students to pass during exams? Definitely no! Why not tell them the names and functions? Why not tell them the appropriate time to engage in sex? Why not tell them the benefits of being chaste until marriage? Why not tell them the consequences of early sexual debut and teenage pregnancy? No parent can claim 100% control over a child! If as a parent you fail to teach your children sex education, do you expect the neighbour next door to do it for you? Somehow, the neighbours will do but instead of sex education, the children are exposed to 'quack sex education' via sexual abuse. At the end, who bears the consequences? The parents and the child.
There is nothing strange in the world. Things are strange because we lack information and also proper documentation. If the past was good, how come we still have 'sugar daddies and sugar mummies' in our present world? Why are the fathers raping their biological daughters and why are the mothers molesting their sons? If religion consider sex education or sex organs as apocryphal, how come we hear pastors raping women even on the sanctuary or the Imam forcing a little girl into oral sex by cover her with his big regalia even during a public sermon? You expect the law enforcement agency to act? Perhaps you have forgotten cases of people who have been raped in detentions and women who have been defiled during peace-keeping mission.
It is time we reconcile our belief system, culture, laws and moral. We cannot continue to obey certain rules when human existence is at stake. Rape a scar! Rape is traumatic! It is no longer about the female but the male inclusive. We are all vulnerable. Despite the exposure to civilization, there are many who do not know the names, location and functions of their sex organ. In my field of work, I have met learned people who ignorant of the functions of the sex organs. I was astonished three years ago to meet a lady who just got married and have no idea of what sex is all about(I would have denied it had it been it was reported in the media).
Dear people, knowledge and information inform decision. If the right knowledge is imparted, it will prevent abuse and vices. When there is a gap in knowledge, abuse is inevitable. No matter how expensive the school fee of your child might be, if there is no sex education, you make wake up one day and discover you have burnt millions. Sex education is not expensive. If as a parent you are not bold to teach it, there are youth friendly centres and counseling facilities. As a father, have you wondered why you are restless and suspicious whenever your girl-child is not at home? Do your job and prevent preventable hypertension. More importantly, there is a strong relationship between substance abuse (especially drugs, smoking and alcohol) and risky behaviour. Substance abuse always impair sense of reasoning which makes people vulnerable to risky behaviour.
Ignorance is a vice, knowledge is a virtue!
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