Three young hard working men consulted a wise old man on the best term of relationship to adopt before marriage after a heated argument among themselves.
The first, a member of the school of thought that you have to spend a long time with your partner before; if fruitful, then marry.
The 2nd the richest among them, with a look Like a cat on hot brick, said hustling before mingling, that way he believe you will earn respect from your partner, her friends, family and he actually thinks you will scare other guys away from her. The 3rd; well he said flirt, flirt around, get the urge off your head then settle.
The wise one said; It’s simply the level of understanding, tolerance and patience between you too. Don’t try to copy others……what rock my boat might crash and sinks yours.
I choose not to identify with any side in this raging argument but to rather raise pertinent points predicated on the escalating controversy. I envy those who have a working relationship, but envy shoots at others and wounds herself . Not that I admire a crashing one no. I certainly don’t.
But some relationships are walking dead. Some are like lurking pernicious predators; the epitome of the devils care. Others, the less I comment the better, between two evils 'tis not worth choosing People don’t just meet and become happy for life. People work hard to be happy.
Happy relationships don’t just fall from the tree. People earn them. Its requires 2 hard working people ready to sacrifice, compromise and give up what they want the most for the good of what they believe in. THE TRYING TIMES: There are moments in a relationship when you feel enough is enough.
When you just can’t put up, when you don’t have space to accommodate. But most at times those moments are what we need to prepare us for bigger challenges. The Chinese say conflict is a tool for change. Always, we forget God made light out of darkness. At times all we need is to invite God to take control.
Every obstacle is permissible by God. Thou not all obstacles are beneficial. A relationship is like a house. When a light bulb burns out, you don’t get a new house; you fix the bulb. A relationship is like a job; you work so hard to get it. But boy; you work harder to stay in it. So as marriage!.
For it takes a man with iron balls to get a lot of money, get a single lady and persist even when thousands are tempting, while its requires a virtues woman to stick with one man even when others with larger pocket are knocking.
A man’s loyalty is tested when he has a lot while a lady’s’ loyalty is tested when her mans pocket is empty. Misfortunes tell us what fortune is. There is no rose without a thorn.
The most dramatic difference between healthy and toxic relationship is the amount of freedom that exists for each person to express themselves as an individual...... THE HALF TIME: Relationship blossom when every partner seeks not his good, but the good of the other.
Most people go into relationship base on what they can get rather than what they can offer. So, when it rains, when it pours, instead of shrinking, all we need might be a time out. To reflect on what went wrong. Most relationships end because people stop doing the things they were doing at the beginning.
THE SUBSTITUTION TIME: People break up for various reasons. But breaking up for greener pastures is usually awkward. Many at times we meet a certain peter or that submissive lady and we feel it ok to jump ship. It’s really a cold world. People disguise like the care. Breaking up is good. There is nothing wrong.
A broken relationship they say is better than a broken marriage. Just don’t regret it afterward. There is a reason why a can tomatoes is expensive than a fresh one. There is a reason why 2nd hand cloths are cheaper than new ones. For it is easy to blame John on the pitfalls of the relationship.
In fact it is easy to give a dog name to your lady. People find excuses to break up. People give a dog a name to make it look bad and hang it. So be careful what you wish to swap your spouse for: you might just have it. It's easier to build a strong relationship than to repair broken marriage.
U can’t teach the dog to bark THE LOSS TIME: There comes a time when the house becomes unfixable. That moment we need to admit it’s over. It is ok to fail. It is ok to accept it has been a fiction. It’s only a fool that would live his life in a circle. It’s shameful when people fail to exist because they had a failed relationship.
What would you rather have? Fail promises? False hope?. When happy couples make promise, they don’t unnecessary delay in fulfilling it. It is better not to make one than to make a promise and not fulfill or not try to fulfill it. People are measure by little things.
Serious couples are renowned for fulfilling their little promises. If they can’t fulfill the little ones, how sure are you they will fulfill the vow at the altar? He that once deceives is ever suspected.
They will fiddle when Rome is burning. As the tree, so the fruit. Unfaithfulness is a disease, heartbreak is an irritation, insincerity is a cancer. But The remedy of all is worse than these diseases. For there is a right time to search, and to give up. A time to keep and a time to throw away.
Happy people derived fun in anything they do. Be slow to fall in love, but when you are in, continue firm and be as you wish to be seen. For falling in love is easy…….but staying in love is……very special. It’s Tetkum Anthony again
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