Lagos - An NGO, Dinma and Nedum Marriage
Foundation, on Saturday appealed to married couples to imbibe the virtue
of tolerance to foster growth in their marriages.
The NGO, founded by Mr and Mrs Theophilus Nwobi, who are
philanthropists, gave the advice at a marriage seminar at the Carlton
Gate Hotel, Festac, Lagos.
Speaking on behalf of the foundation, Mrs Chidinma Nwobi, urged
couples to understand one another as their backgrounds could be
"Every spouse comes from a different background and must not be expected to behave in a particular way.
"It is never a woman's responsibility to attempt to change her
husband because men by their nature see this as an attempt to exert
control on them which almost every man is opposed to.
"Since both spouses are largely products of different upbringing, it
is only safe to study your partner and discover who he or she is, in
order to know how best to cope with such spouse," she said.
Nwobi said for a marriage to be successful, the couple must ensure full knowledge of the likes and dislikes of one another.
"It is the duty of every spouse in a marriage to discover what his
or her partner’s love language is, in order to know how best to please
such spouse and promote the marriage," she said.
She noted that it was instructive to determine the temperament of
one’s spouse, as this afforded the wife or husband ample opportunity to
study and examine his or her partner's temperament and mood swings.
She said that a major cause of broken homes in the society was the
lack of understanding between couples which often resulted in quarrels
at home, and eventually led to divorce.
Nwobi noted that the brunt of divorce and broken homes was borne
mostly by the children of the marriage, most of who lost confidence in
their parents and question their existence.
"Most of the touts on the streets, children trafficking and other
acts of promiscuity on the part of the youths are pieces of evidence of
broken homes,’’ she said.
Mr Paul Emenike, one of those who attended the seminar, told NAN
that the foundation had been a source of inspiration to his family.
He said that he and his wife had followed the activities of the
foundation in the last two years and it had helped them to surmount
certain problems which they initially thought were obstacles to their
NAN reports that inspirational books, T-shirts, and several gift items were distributed to couples that attended the seminar.